If the argument is that overweight white women go after black men because they can't get with white men, this demeans black men by insinuating that they are not as desirable as white men.I had a white guy tell me that “7.5 times out of 10, a white girl that's into black guys has very deep rooted daddy issues." What evidence there is to prove this, I don't know.Later, when I was with a young white woman, I was called a Nigger once while we driving down the road in a convertible.And the scariest part was when she took me to a bar that was really far away from anywhere I’d been in Michigan and as soon as we walked in I gained just about all of the attention of everybody in the bar. After attempting and failing miserably to get service at the customer less bar for like 2–3 minutes, while at the same time all of these guys were staring at me, I decided it would be best if we just left.I happen to have a very good relationship with my father.
Just because society has identified whiteness as some sort of marker of success doesn't mean that white women view themselves as an “upgrade" for black men.Not that celebrities are always accurate depictions of regular people, but a handful of the Kardashians prove this stereotype to be false.It also could just be that black men appreciate women who don't have a certain body type.By dating a black man, we don't think that's an extension of “I have black friends, therefore I'm not racist." If we were racist, we wouldn't be dating a black guy in the first place.Who can really keep up appearances for that long just to prove a point?There’s no guarantee that if I decided to actually make a night of it in that bar, that I would be here to type this answer.