Both narcissists and borderlines lack the self-awareness of an “observing ego”.
That is they have difficulty reflecting on what they feel or need or want and are likely to be dishonest, avoidant or manipulative rather than clear and assertive.
The crucial time for this phase of development is thought to be around 18 months to 3 years (which coincides, quite logically, with the terrible twos).
Both narcissists and borderlines grow up needing to define themselves in terms of other people in order to feel viable.
The severely decompensated borderline becomes emotional and self destructive to the point that he or she may appear to be psychotic.
I would like to share my thoughts on the basic similarities and differences between these two disorders of the self and how they might affect relationships.
Disorders of the self, or personality disorders, have long been understood as enduring patterns of thinking, emotion and interpersonal functioning which result in poor coping mechanisms and impaired relating of one sort or another.
is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration.
Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings. Both of these disorders are the result of an incompletely formed sense of self.
Dear future lover, Like my identity, my emotions can flip.