There was also a section on “false starts,” meaning unrequited love and breakups.
Many cited loss of feelings or not having enough in common in these situations.
Only 3 to 4% of BYU students have had sex (a figure possibly somewhat underreported due to fear of honor code violations), as compared with 60 to 70% at other universities.
Many students found it challenging to transition from hanging out to dating relationships.
As for physical intimacy, around 30% think holding hands, hugging and kissing is appropriate in a hanging out relationship, while the percentage is just short of 100 for a dating relationship.
A small number, from 1 to 3%, feels making out and intense kissing is appropriate for hanging out, which appears to be the NCMO phenomenon and the BYU equivalent of “hooking up.” Naturally, BYU students are very conservative as regards actual premarital sex.
The most common strategy for doing so was to spend more one on one time together outside of the group.
Just over half of the men and well over half of the women feel that they do not date as much as they would like to.Roughly 20% of both men and women claimed five or more dates per month.Only 7% of the men and 16% of the women reported not having been on a date during the previous month.The importance BYU students placed on marrying (88% women, 87% men) was a little bit more but somewhat comparable to high aspirations towards marriage in the national sample (83% women, 73% men).Interestingly, the non-LDS sample felt a little more confident that at the right time the right person would appear for marriage; nearly the entire national sample was confident in being able to find a suitable mate (99%), but this number was 92% for BYU women and 88% for BYU men, which may suggest higher standards for the BYU group.Some found serious conflicts as they got to know each other better; jealousy, possessiveness, lack of balance, cheating, different values [although this wasn’t quite the issue at the Y as elsewhere] were among the issues cited.