Well, that doesn’t require an actual “legal” marriage! Once you’ve figured out what a marriage entails (so that you know what to ask a potential husband / wife), the question is who to ask!You can tell someone “I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you”, and if he/she says “I love you too – that sounds great! Well, it’s to make sure you know what you want well enough that you can express it to the other person. Take a while and think about what qualities you need in someone for marriage.Fill in the blank: This is what marriage means to me: When you’re clear on what you want, we can take a look at what you can do to accomplish that! Does your definition of marriage require an actual wedding? Can you imagine the emotional pain and legal headaches?Maybe you wrote something like “Two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together”. You need to be clear on what you expect from a husband/wife, so that when he/she says “Yes!! The only way you can do that is if you know what you’re asking!!With every success or “failure” in this area, something new and interesting comes up.Please be aware though that I am currently in love, so my analysis may be somewhat biased.
By devoting most of your time to a relatively hopeless relationship, your deprive yourself of the chance of exploring other relationships that might give you what you want!
Consider someone who goes from suboptimal relationship to suboptimal relationship, each lasting 2 years with 2 months in between.
Say normally, you have 80 hours a month to socialize with people, but in a relationship (since you need to spend alone time together), you only have 20 hours to socialize with other people.
Wouldn’t it be better to take a few months and think it over clearly instead of spending years in relationships that don’t work?
After careful consideration, my list is pretty simple: Is Single Open And Honest Educated Flexible/Open Minded – Easily Adapts To Change Has Great Listening And Conflict Resolution Skills Knows What She Wants Female Available – Able To Fit Me Into Her Life Has Compatible Goals Loves And Appreciates Me For Who I Am After I made this list, it only took about a year for me to find what I feel is the perfect person for me.
Partly, it’s because the list allowed me to filter out people very fast.