"You want to keep this in mind to avoid becoming turned off," says Greer."For some people, it's like eating the same food every day—suddenly seeing their partner much more can make them feel bored."Or does one of you feel much more strongly about it than the other?Getting open and honest about this major milestone will only boost your relationship.No judgment if when visiting your long-distance partner, you spend pretty much every minute of your time together in bed.It's not uncommon to spend a ton of time getting ready before you visit each other in an LDR, and also to be on your best behavior during those trips.
Being in each other's presence is a precious gift, and you treat it as such.This past April, I took the long-distance out of my long-distance relationship. C.-based boyfriend and I had been making trips between the nation's capital and New York City, where I was living.The circumstances of my move weren't exactly ideal—we'd agreed I'd be the one moving for various reasons, but I did it with 24 hours' notice because my apartment building caught fire and was condemned. BYE, five-hour bus rides filled with obnoxious passengers and shoddy Wi-Fi! Even though it was sudden, the transition was still smooth because like any love and sex writer worth her salt, I'd made sure we talked about pretty much every aspect of it beforehand.If you're taking on such a major life change, your partner can at least do their due diligence to make it as easy as possible.High five if you've already landed a job before making the move! It can be difficult for your résumé to get a lot of bites when you're in another city.Opening up about that can be painful, but probably less so than having to move to where you started because it took being in the same city to realize you weren't equally invested.