Pastors, like everyone else, don’t want to have their sex lives examined by their community.
Especially if that community is paying their salary, and holds them up as a model of moral behavior. But when someone in a congregation finds out that a pastor and a parishioner are dating, the news is wildfire, and the questions never stop.
My responsibility is not to the ministry or to my spouse…my responsibility is to Jesus Christ and at the end of the day, that’s all that matters.
It’s OK to be yourself, it’s OK if people don’t like everything you do, and it’s OK to boldly go in the direction that God has intended for you, even if the crowd is shouting to go the other way.For those of you who are indeed concerned about this, here’s some of my thoughts. Now, you may not get physically killed in good ‘ole America, but you will get raked over the coals every now and again. People won’t care about what you are doing if they think you should be doing something else.People will tell you blatantly that they don’t approve of the very thing you feel like God told you to do. You have to decide right now to do the right thing every time for the rest of your life. One decision on my part can destroy my husband’s career.So I couldn’t tell anyone in my church about the biggest problem in my life—and that’s what churches are there for, to help you with the biggest problems in your life. Your emotions toward your church get mixed up with the emotions of your relationship.If you’re in crazy infatuation with your pastor, you might start feeling like your church is the greatest place in the world.If you fight with your pastor, you’re going to start hating your church. If being part of a stable religious community is at all something that matters to you, then you don’t want to get on an emotional roller-coaster every time you walk down the aisle.