We feel it when we are uncomfortable, uncertain, excited, full of anticipation. It is created by mystery, uncertainty, excitement and anticipation.When a woman pursues a man, not only does she rob him of his desire to pursue and chase the object of his affections, but she also destroys any natural sexual and romantic tension possible in the relationship.The assumption is that men prefer less intelligent women because women with a high IQ are often passed over in favor of “ditzes” — according to these smart, rejected women. According to the study mentioned in the article “Men are threatened by intelligent women” by the Independent; “Men are attracted to the idea of dating intelligent women — but don’t actually like the reality of it.”I myself at one time believed this to be true and I’ve spoken with many women who had this suspicion as well.In the dating scene, to self-identified intelligent women, it appears true that men prefer dating women who aren’t as smart, who don’t have careers, who aren’t an “equal.” I’ve confronted men with this idea and heard rounds of denial that they love smart women and smart women excite them, but the reality is different.Men can profess all day that they love intelligent women, but when I watch my smart, educated, successful and very attractive friends struggle with dating, I am suspicious.So, whenever something appears to be true but receives adamant denial, I know that the problem is typically the way we are thinking about it and describing it due to societal hang-ups and an inaccurate view of ourselves.It implies that men want women who are not intelligent. Men do want intelligent women but they are not attracted to many of the traits that are very often found in high quantities in intelligent successful women. In fact, competition is the opposite of partnership. To be the better parent, to be a bigger martyr, to make more money, etc.
Doing this means thinking about what we might be “trying to say” instead of what we are saying.If a woman can learn to channel her drive and intensity into her career, but turn it off or turn it down when dating so that she can let herself be pursued, so she can enjoy being chased then she will have more success romantically.I’m not making a comment on how women or men “should” behave. I’m simply pointing out that actions and attitudes have an effect on other people. Sex and attraction are one of those things about humanity that pay no attention to politics, religion, education and social pressure. There are things women can do to make herself more attractive to the opposite sex, to entice a man to chase her, to raise his curiosity and his pulse when she’s around.Tension is defined as a feeling of nervousness and excitement.We don’t feel tension when we feel certain or comfortable.Doing this means thinking about if the words we are using are describing the reality or creating the reality.