Trying to force a friendship too early means you’re going to fall right back into old patterns with your ex and that spells trouble.
Most of the time, when you’ve broken up, it’s for a very good reason.
Some don’t care about witnessing ex’s displays of affection with their new snugglebunny and for others, it’s pure unadulterated nightmare fuel.
This goes both ways, by the way; just because you’re totally fine with knowing everything (and everyone) your ex gets up to doesn’t mean that they’re going to feel the same way about you.
When you’re in a committed relationship together, it’s natural to have a greater expectation of involvement in your partner’s life.
It’s to not be comfortable getting the full details of what your ex is getting up to; being uncomfortable with knowing about their sex life doesn’t make you less of a friend, nor does it mean you’re not over them.
If your supposed “friend” is uncomfortable that the merest mention of your new significant other is taboo…
well, it’s time to consider whether or not it’s worth still being friends with them.
One of the things that people tend to forget – especially in a long-term relationship – is that you develop new habits and routines that center around having your ex in your life.
Regardless of whether you lived together or lived apart, you will have into certain patterns that are dependent on working in tandem with another person. It’s easier and healthier to start a friendship when you’ve had the time and and distance to get some perspective on your old relationship.
” dance that marks the early days of a post-break up friendship. You acknowledge the awkward up front and establish early on the things you don’t want to hear about.