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"People are out with long knives for the happy couple," says Green.
An easy fix is to act professionally and, when you're together, keep the door open.
Still, dating at work can be a personal and professional minefield.
"I hate to be the legal buzzkill here, but these relationships can create problems," says Lisa Green, an employment lawyer and the author of spoke with real-life office daters and workplace experts to devise the ultimate dating-at-work survival plan.
(You know the old saying about not, um, where you eat.) But as more Americans postpone marriage until their careers are established—and as hours get longer, with smartphones blurring work and play—it makes sense that attitudes are changing.
"Older generations saw work as a separate place," says Renee Cowan, Ph.
Sarah, a 30-year-old graphic designer, met Matt through a colleague at the imaging tech company where they both worked.
D., an assistant professor at the University of Texas at San Antonio who studies office relationships.
"Nowadays work and life are very integrated." In that light, these stats aren't surprising: 37 percent of people have dated a coworker, according to a 2015 survey by Career Builder, and 30 percent of those relationships ended in marriage (proving that an office romance is not always a disaster).
But the caution was worth it: Five years after that first date, he proposed.
A decade ago their romance would have been expressly forbidden.
And if a colleague asks you out and won't take no for an answer, that may be harassment, and you should consider talking to HR. If you make out with someone at the holiday party, bite the bullet and ask about the person's intentions afterward.