But, one fateful prom night, we kissed and that led to us hanging out and getting to know each other more.After 2 months, we knew were in love and after 4 months I got on a plane and flew back to America to go to University. Emails at least three times a day and a phone call every day or every other day.And as much as I hated the ‘long-ness’, it helped (/forced) us to sort through a lot of relationship issues and laid a really strong foundation for the rest of our lives together.So if any of you are considering a long-distance relationship, or you’re smack-dab in the middle of one, or you’re struggling to keep one alive, we know how you feel!Any lack of advice is just because we don’t want to suggest something that will feel wrong for you – only you will really know what’s right…but we do understand that it’s a difficult situation – and we’re here for each other and for you guys, too!Posted on March 25, 2009 by yankeebean Lots of people find She’s Not From Yorkshire because they’ve fallen for an English man – and so have we!A comment left recently by Dreamer got me thinking about the logistics of meeting, falling in love with, dating, and possibly marrying and English man.
only to have my heart ripped out when he returned home. But before we said “I do,” we had almost two years of long distance, trying desperately to make it work. But, as luck would have it, I ended up at a school 10.5 hours away, by an overnight bus.
This gets hard when you go to a party, meet up with friends, or end up at a concert where an attractive brunette locks their hand in yours or pulls you in for a hug.
You whole body is screaming out “FINALLY” while your mind is churning out in the background “But what about your boyfriend…? Do you have the willpower to purposefully make yourself miserable and craving – all in the name of love?
But I also think absence makes the heart go wander (clever, I know). I’ve noticed about 1/3 of the time it is justified, and the other 2/3 is just crazy talk. it’s just that distance makes people do crazy things.
During one particularly low point in our long-distance, Ryosuke forgot to log out of Facebook on my computer and I read through all of his private messages. I told him a couple months later – and he thought it was hilarious. Dealing with jealousy in a long distance relationship is one of the hardest things to do. You can trust your significant other not to cheat on you as much as you trust the sun to rise each day, but if you see a picture of them at a party with a hot blonde on their arm, jealousy is going to rear it’s ugly head. I love holding hands and leaning on my fiances shoulder on long bus rides. To me, more than the jealousy and trust, the lack of physical contact is the hardest aspect of a long distance relationship.
Between the phone calls, Skype calls, and text messages – you have absolutely no way of knowing what they are doing. You have to trust they will tell you if their affections are wavering or if they are tired of the relationship.