Don’t even think about posting a dating advert without a photo. You meet, and the blood drains from their face as they realise that your photo was taken 10 years, five stone and 500 wrinkles ago. You don’t have to write someone an epic love letter (please don’t) – just pick out a couple of appealing points in their bio and write a quick intro message. Some rookies assume that they must answer every email, even if it’s “thanks, but no thanks”. “Thanks but no thanks” can feel more hurtful than no reply.
Most grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a nervous breakdown or two. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists.
Specific information does more than make you sound interesting – it also gives potential dates something to write to you about.
“I asked my friend to describe me, and here’s what he wrote…” is a cop-out.
Like most women our age, we were career-minded with our own apartments, but we also wanted to get married.
So over fried tofu and mixed vegetables, we each brought our dating problems to the table.
Unfortunately, you cannot attract this by writing the word down any more than you can attract wealth by writing down the word “money.” Be patient.