But if you would have been fine with this had you known—if there was no reason for Mary to hide this LTR-of-sorts from you—the best way to prove that to her is by giving it your retroactive blessing.You're right, UITM: Mary shouldn't have hidden this from you.So, yeah, stop answering that drunk girl's summonses.Let her know you want more than sex, and if she's not interested in something more, you're not interested in her.Prior to this, it never occurred to me that Mary would do anything that had a whiff of dishonesty about it.But her having kept this from me for as long as I have known her has made me question that.I have considered asking if we could open up the relationship, but I doubt that is the solution. Help Relationship Transition Whatever you do, HRT, please—please—don't ask to open up your relationship when what you really want is out.
) but also the language to honestly discuss our need for a little harmless erotic affirmation from someone who isn't obligated to find us attractive, i.e., not a spouse or partner. I have no interest in him in real life, we've actually never even met in person, but I enjoy his texts and would like to keep swapping texts with him.As for those erectile issues, SWAT, try having sex sober, earlier in the evening, and with someone who doesn't regard your dick as a consolation prize. I am a transgender man, and my girlfriend is a transgender woman, and we have hit a plateau.Intimate time is rare, communication is minimal, and although I care for her deeply, I do not like her as a person and no longer want to get married.I hope that's not a problem." You would have dumped her on the spot, right? She didn't really have any interest in me except for the occasional drink; she just wanted to be friends. We drank a bit more than we could handle and slept together, and I thought we would start dating.She didn't want to stop, she didn't know how to talk about it, she hesitated, and... If there's nothing else—if no other shoes drop—give this your retroactive blessing. A few weeks went by, and she always had an excuse as to why we couldn't hang out.People who want out but ask for open inevitably get out in the end.