Especially when there are those girls you see sitting at the "Popular table" with their boyfriends laughing and talking.It makes you want to be like them but really you don't want to walk in their shoes, you are fine the way you are.A Confused Mother Dear Mother, First, let me say that we have to be very careful about wishing for popularity for our kids.The popular kids are not always the happiest kids nor are they always the nicest. Anyone who has ever been excluded knows that this has often been initiated by the popular kids. Nonetheless, kids who begin to date as young teens are more likely to have bad study habits, eventually develop substance use problems and are unfortunately more likely to drop out of school than teens who begin to date at later ages.I am not sure how you and your daughter are defining dating.If it simply refers to exchanging thumbs-up signs or a few text messages that is one thing. For more articles like this please see my website: I came to this website to get advice if I should continue dating or not.Perhaps the early daters neglect friendships and lack a necessary support group of friends to see them through all of the years of middle school and high school.
Dating can be quite confusing and distracting for young teens.
I don't think I have a certain age in mind for dating to be OK - I think every child is different. Define "girlfriend" True story - when my son was 11, he had a friend who had a girlfriend - one that they would go to each others houses & hang out in his bedroom alone, door open or shut :/ he started asking me if he could have a girlfriend.
Some are going through puberty, while others are not.
Depends on the kid - and the date My parents said 16. It also depends on your relationship with your kid and how well you trust him/her, plus the boy/girlfriend and other friends.
The dating sneak attack My Dad always said no dating until I was 16.
We are not genetically predisposed to deal with such things. Double duty In my house, we allowed dating to start at 9th grade.