If you see schoolwork start to suffer and friendships fall by the wayside, it is reasonable to restrict the number of times Romeo and Juliet can rendezvous during the school week.High-school romances tend to have limited life spans.At what age are children old enough to date “solo”? “There’s an enormous difference between a fourteen- or fifteen-year- old and a sixteen- or seventeen-year-old in terms of life experience,” he says. While parent-teen conversations must encompass the hormones, hydraulics and other biological aspects of love and attraction, equal time should be devoted to thoughtful discussions about love as the most powerful and heartfelt of all human emotions.You might add or subtract a year depending on how mature and responsible your youngster is. Love is a subject of unending fascination for adolescents.”) and, if applicable, divorce (“Dad, how can two people love each other for years and years, then stop being in love? Having an imperfect romantic résumé yourself does not disqualify you from initiating this conversation.You might say, “I haven’t always made the wisest decisions when it comes to love, but I’ve promised myself that the next time I become involved with someone special, I won’t settle for anything less than a healthy, honest relationship.However, you might not recognize it as dating per se.The recent trend among early adolescents is for boys and girls to socialize as part of a group.
If anything, youngsters in the group spend as much time interacting with their same-sex friends as they do with members of the opposite sex. Ron Eagar, a pediatrician at Denver Health Medical Center, views group dating as a healthy way for adolescents to ease into the dating pool rather than dive in.They march off en masse to the mall or to the movies, or join a gang tossing a Frisbee on the beach.Don’t confuse group dating with double-dating or triple-dating.Those that endure until graduation day rarely survive the post-high-school years.If one or both young people leave home, the physical distance has a way of opening an emotional distance between them, and eventually the relationship coasts to a halt.When you’re older and ready to start dating, I hope that you will do the same. ” Adults generally take a cynical view of teenage romance, as if it were a chemical imbalance in need of correction. “You know what they’re like when their hormones start raging.” A boy and a girl float down the street holding hands, dizzy in love, and all parents see is testosterone and estrogen out on a date.